Guys. I’m going to get all real with you today.
I have a pretty unhealthy self-image.
As confident as I am behind the keyboard, blogging away every week, when it comes to day-to-day real life I’m just not happy with the image that I put out into the world.
One of my favourite things about lifestyle blogs is getting to know the person behind them. Seeing their candid weekend photos with their families, their day-to-day style, their hair and make-up tips. Yet this is one area in which I feel I have nothing to offer. I feel like my own self-image conflicts with the image that I’m trying to build at Her Happy Heart – clean, pretty and polished. And as a result, I rarely use pictures of myself, and I lose that personal aspect I love so much on every other blog.
Most of the time, I feel like a slob.
I don’t wear make-up or take care of my skin. I don’t do anything to my hair – I go a week without washing it, I let it air-dry into whatever shape it desires, and then I tie it up into a low pony-tail that I often don’t even fix at any point during the day, so by the evening I have wisps and chunks of wayward hair hanging around my face and down my neck. Last year I didn’t even buy a single item of clothing – not on purpose, I just didn’t get around to it. So I have just been wearing the same rotation of 3 maxi dresses and 3 old office dresses (with leggings). FOR. A. YEAR. I only work in an office one day per week!
I’ve always been pretty slack with these things, but since becoming a Mum, I have also become the cliche-of-a-Mum who runs out the door every day smeared in avocado, mis-matched thongs on her feet, and yesterday’s elastic hair-tie slipping halfway down her ponytail. I horrify myself some days, but I can’t seem to stop myself!
And I know appearance shouldn’t be that important, beauty is on the inside, yaddah-yaddah-yaddah.
But it is important. It should be, at least a little. I was always known for having an eclectic sense of style when I was younger. In fact I used to enjoy getting myself ready to go out. I liked making the effort to look nice for my husband. And then life happened, and here I am. Ashamed to post photos of myself on the blog and on Instagram, for fear that I will dirty up the feed!
But I want to change. I really want to work on my self-image; to put more effort and care into my appearance. I want to look after my hair and have a super quick day-to-day makeup routine, and wear clothes that have at least the tiniest degree of style. Like, I just want to look put together. And I have a sneaky suspicion that I’m not the first Mum to need a self-image overhaul!
This year, I want to lift my game.
I want to start paying attention to some style blogs. Watch hair and make-up tutorials on Youtube. Set aside a bit of my personal spending budget to save up and buy some new clothes, and consciously pick out items that I love, not just dive through the sales rack at Crossroads! I want to find the perfect shade of red lipstick and wear shoes that aren’t a variety of thong. To spend 15 minutes focusing on my appearance before I leave the house, rather than priding myself on my ability to get dressed and out the door in a 3-minute window.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I need to be preened and polished to go to the grocery store. But it would be nice to not look like a total bogan as I push my trolley down the frozen aisle. A happy medium; that’s what I’m aiming for!
I’m going to commit to small changes.
If there’s one thing I’ve learnt in life, it’s that nothing big ever happens overnight. Small changes are going to be my hero here (I even wrote about it back when I was over-hauling my approach to house keeping AND IT WORKED!) So for now, here’s how I’m going to start improving my self-image:
Start looking after my skin
Emily recently posted about her 2017 skin overhaul in preparation for her upcoming wedding, and that post could not have come at a better time for me! The products in her post are apparently quite universal (I asked!) and should suit most skin-types, PLUS they’re all available to buy from Priceline! So I’m giving them a go. My skin is pretty healthy (probably because I’m so lazy about wearing makeup!) but it could definitely benefit from a bit of TLC.
Be mindful when I get dressed every day
Instead of just throwing on the easiest-to-wear clothing I can find before racing out the door, I’m going to consider style a bit more. Sure, I can still wear an easy Summer dress on a hot day, but I’ll find a pair of shoes that match (instead of my go-to rubber thongs), I’ll pick out a necklace, maybe even a bracelet. Put myself together a bit. I did this one day earlier this week and sure, I was in a cheap hand-me-down dress that I’ve worn about a hundred times but I felt a million bucks and even got a couple of compliments!
It might sound silly, but this is a big deal for me. Years ago I became too lazy to put earrings on, and as a result my piercings closed over! So in 2014 I got them re-pierced and have pretty much just worn gold sleepers every day since then. What was the point of that!? I have a nice little collection of earrings, so each day I’m going to pick out a pair that I love. It really is the little things!
Learn a go-to hairstyle or two
It’s time to hit up YouTube and find some easy hairstyles that I can whip up when I want to leave the house. That low-slung ponytail is fine at home but it’s so dowdy!
How’s your self-image? Are you in a similar rut? Maybe one of these easy changes can help get you on your way too?
PS I know, these photos are the worst quality everrrr. I took them last night with my iPhone self-cam, which was a useless idea. Lesson learned!